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y father died suddenly when I was 17, and I
didn't shed a tear- at first. A couple of months
shy of 40, he suffered an instantly fatal heart
attack in the middle of the night. Our family
passed the next 36 hours in an unreal state of shock; Dad's being gone was really incomprehensible to us. Two days after his
death we went to the funeral home and saw this person who
had been at the center of our lives propped stiffly in a casket.
Flowers had already arrived, from the neighbors, from Dad's office. Then my mom
motioned to me and pointed out the card on one large bouquet It was from my high
school Latin class. At that moment, the tears nowed. As the phrase goes, I lost it. But
maybe it would be more accurate to say 1 found it - the beginning of the grief I'd been
skirting ever since this unbelievable loss occurred.
If you spoke to a grief counselor, you'd probably find that my reaction was quite
common. What I realized even at the time was that, somehow, healthy grieving mvolved
other people. It wasn't just about me or the deceased ; it required expressions of love and
solidarity from the living. And that's why jesus called burying the dead a work of mercy.
We see this phenomenon in times
of catastrophe. For this month's
cover story, 1 interviewed Peter
Burke, a St. Andrew parishioner
and a funeral director who is part of
the federal governments National
Disaster Medical System. He helped
identify remains and return them to
families after the World Trade Center
attack and in the wake of Hurricane
Katrina. After those eventS, an entire
nation participated in the grieving process; the efforts and prayers. of total
strangers were, for relatives of the stricken, part of both the literal and
emotional tasks of laying their loved ones to rest.
Isn't it kind of mysterious? Especially in our American culture, which
prizes individualism so highly? But the church has always unde rstood that
true humanity involves community. We don't sin in isolation; we cannot
fully worship alone; and grieving and praying for our dead is something (as
Bishop Burbidge explains in his column this month) that we do not only
with other living Christians, but with the saints in heaven.
This month, when we celebrate All Saints Day and All Souls Day, is a good
time to remember this essential truth: We need each otha Not only in our
grieving, but in our rejoicing and in our many ordinary moments of simply
living: We are a people in communion. Our burdens, our gifts- sharing these
is part of what it means to be fully human.
We don't publish NC Catholics in isolation, either. In the last few weeks,
many of you have been contacted and asked how you feel about the magazine.
Your responses to our survey will be important as we try to make NCC more
interesting, inspiring and informative. Meanwhile, thanks for your letters. You
can reach me at 715 Nazareth St., Raleigh, NC 27606 or [email protected]
... The church has
always understood
that true humanity
involves community. We don't sin in
isolation; we cannot
fully worship alone;
and grieving and
praying for our dead
is something that
we do not only with
other living Christians, but with the
saints in heaven.
r
- Richard Reece is the editor o£ NC Catholics.
u:urg.:a: C.1H>ndar All
S~mts (Holy Day of ObhgaUon) .'1¢,
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Commcmor~tion of All the Fa1lhful Departed (All Souls) No11
2 Sl Martin de Porrcs, Rchg1aus Nry, :J Sl Charles Borramco, B
1
since you asked •••
6 Dear NCC: "I believe the church
teaches that 'extraordinary means'
need not be used to prolong the
life of a gravely ill person. But
what are 'extraordinary means'?
Does it differ from case to case?
And who decides?"
- Msgr. Srcve Worst~y
theology 1 01
8 A step-by-step guide through the
church's liturgies.
- Etl:ahcrh Sotsburg
voices in our church
~~::=:;::;;;iiiOiiii..., 1 0 We pray for our beloved dead
~~-~~-!!!~--.,
- Bishop Michael f Burbidge
I
1 0 A caring presence
- Msgr. Thomas ll:ldden
11 El misterio de Ia muerte
- Padre F~rnando Torres
11 Understanding the "Day of the
Dead" - Veronica t\lvarndo
del obispo
19 Oremos por nuestros gueridos
difuntos.- Obispo Micha~l r; Burbidge
el
hi spa no
cat61ico
Angeles en Ia familia
Para las madres en estado de
embarazo y sus hijos, el Proyecto
Gabriel es un salvavidas.
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- Rich R~~cc
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o
pregunta
"Creo que Ia Iglesia nos enseiia
que no debemos usar 'medias
extraordinarios' para prolongar Ia
vida de una persona gravemente
enferma. lQue son •medfos
extraordlnarios'? Differen
ellos de acuerdo al caso? y •.•
l.Quien decide?"
-
~hms~i\or 5 r~w.
Worsley
your marriage maHers
20 She says: his kids get more
things than mine. He says: my
kids don't get enough. What do
they do?
- Deb McCormack
the parenting journey
21 Grieving parenthood - coping
with the loss of a baby.
- Dr. Carhic~n McGreal
spiritual fitness
22 The death of grief - those who
sow in tears will reap with joy.
- Fr. Bill Ashbaugh
parish profile
30
~They love the church"
St. Stanislaus, Castle Hayne
- Rich Reece
4 The Dcd1cnbon cf the Lntcran Basdoca on Rome Nov 9 Sl Leo the Grcal Pope and Doctor Nov 10 : Sl MartJn of Tours, B1shop Nov 11 I Sl Albert the Grcal Boshop and Doctor Nov 15
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1962 to 1967; and St. Monica
Elementary School in Raleigh
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Lumberton from 1990 to 1991
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Help Parish in Rocky Mount from
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saint
of
the
month
Born: 1768
Died: Nov. 7, 1814
Feast Day: Nov. 7 (also Sept. 28 as
one of the Martyrs of China)
Claim to Fame: One of the
"Martyrs of China," a large group of Chinese natives and
European missionaries who died for their faith over a threecentury period, Peter Wu Gousheng was a lay catechist in the
Szechuan region of China. He taught Christianity to more than
600 converts, including many visitors to the inn he operated.
Ultle-known fact: Even before Peter Wu converted to Christianity when he was 28, he was known in tis community for his sense
of justice, tis care of the poor and his enthusiastic and outspoken
nature. When he embraced Catholicism, he approached his faith as
enthusiasticslly as he did everything else in his life, throwing ~ his
household idols and preaching to anyone who would listen.
What made him a saint: Peter was baptized in 1796 and
'Pent the next 18 years teaching others about Christ. Even when
new emperor who was unfriendly to Christianity took over as
ruler of China, Peter Wu did not back down from teaching and
preaching. When he was tort\nd, he refused to renounce his
faith; instead, he encxxnged and inspired his fellow prisoners. He
continued to proclaim tis belief in Jesus Christ even as he was
martyred.
Lowest/scariest moment: In 1813, Emperor Kia-Kin
published a decree fOI'bidding Catholicism, but offered pardons
to anyol'lB who would renounce the faith. Those who would not
commit apostasy, however, INOUid be tortured and killed. Under
this Jaw, Peter Wu was arrested and imprisoned on Apnl 3, 1814,
and tortured repeatedly to persuade him to renounce Cmstianity.
Instead of breaking his Ml, Peter Wu used his time in prison to lead
prayer services for other prisoners.
Best quote: "Be loyal to the Lord, and accept tis wiD~
How he died: One of the Martyrs of China, Peter Wu was
condemned to death for refusing to step on a crucifix. He was
executed by strangulation on Nov. 7, 1814.1n his dying words, he
proclaimed, MHeaven, heaven, my true hornell see my heavenly
mother and my guardian angel coming to take me home."
Prayer: St. Peter \1\iJ, you held steadftuJt to your faith even
though you knew that you would die for your beliefs. Help us to find
T ie courage to boldly proclaim our commitment to Christ Jesus and
~ share his message with others as you did. Help us to generously
support the work of missionaries who preach the Gospel in lands
hostile to Christianity, so that more souls will be brought to God
through his Son, Jesus Christ. Amen. -flk allelh}ClhnJ<Jn
Lo que lo Destac6: Es uno de los "Martires de Ia China", un grupo
grande de misioneros oriundos de Ia China y Europa que murieron por
su fe durante un periodo de tres siglos, Peter Wu Gousheng fue un cate+
quista laico de Ia region Szechuan de Ia China. Le ensen6 el Cristianismo
a mas de 600 conversos, incluyendo a muchos de los visitantes del hostel
que el administraba.
Hecho poco conocldo: Aim antes de que se convirtiera al Cristianismo cuando tenia 28 alios de edad, Pedro Ou, ya era conocido en su
comunidad por su senlido de justicia, porque cuidaba de los pobres, y
por su naturaleza entusiasta y franca. Cuando se entreg6 al Catolicismo,
abraz6 su fe con el mismo entusiasmo con el que llevo a cabo lodes las
cosas en su vida, deshaciendose de los idolos de su case y predicandoles
a todaa las personas que estuvieran dispuestas a escucharlo.
Lo que lo hlzo Santo: Pedro fue bautizado en el ano 179 6 y pas61os
18 aiios siguientes predicandoles a otras personas sobre Cristo. Aun cuando
un nuevo emperador poco amistoso con el Cristianismo tom6 el poder en Ia
China, Pedro Ou no dej6 de predicar y ensenar. Cuando Ia torturaron, ae neg6
a renunciar a su fe y a cambio alent6 e inspir6 a sus compaiieros encarcelados.
Continuo proclamando que creia en Jesucristo aun cuando aufria el martfrio.
Su momenta mas dHrcll: En el alia 1813, el Emperador Kia~Kin
publico un decreta prohibiendo el Catolicismo, pero ofreciendoles perdonas a los que renunciaran a su fe. Aquellos que no cometieran apostasla
serian, sin embargo, torturados y condenados a muerte. Aplicando esta
ley, Pedro Ou fue arrestado el 3 de abril de 1914, fue encarcelado y torturado repetidas veces para tratar de que renegara del Cristianismo, pero
en vez de dejar que Je quebrantaran Ia voluntad, Pedro Ou dedico suestadia en Ia prisi6n a dirigir servicios de oraci6n para los otros priaioneros.
Su major etta: "Se leal al Senor y acepta au voluntad".
Forma en Ia que mur16: Siendo uno de los Martires de Ia China, Pedro
Ou fue condenado a muerte por negarse a pisar un crucifijo. Fue estrangulado
el 7 de noviembre de 1914. Con sus ultlmas palabras proclamO: "I los cielos,
los cielos, mi verdadero hogarl Veo a mi Madre celestial y a mi ilngel de Ia
guards viniendo a buscarme para llevarme a case".
Oracl6n: San Pedro Ou, hi te aferraste tenazmente a tu fa atin cuando
sabias que motirias por tus creencias. Aylidanos a encontrar el coraje de
proclamar con audacia nuestra entrega a Cristo Jesus y 8 compartir su
tu.
mensaje con los otros como lo hiciste Ay6d8nos a apoyar con generosiclad
el trabajo de los misioneros que predican el Evangelio en tierras hostiles hacia
el Cristianismo, para que mas afmas sean traidss 8 Dios a traves de Su Hijo
Jesucrista. Amen. - &,tllo por TnmJii"'" liSA .
since
you
asked . ..
"I believe the church teaches that 'extraordinary means' need not be used to
prolong the life of a gravely ill person.
But what are 'extraordinary means'?
Does it differ from case to case? And
who decides?"
hose are great questions! You are
definitely onto something both useful and important. As one of my
favorite teachers used to say, its
our ability and our willingness
to ask the right questions that help us find
useful answers.
As l consider your questions, two others
come to mind: Who made us? Why did God
make us? Regardless of whether you recognize
these two questions, their answers were foundational to the teachings so beautifully articulated by
Pope john Paulll in his encyclical Evangclium Vitae.
For the
believer, the
answer to the
first of these
questions
is that God
made us.
Indeed, God
made us in
his own image and likeness. This is why we hold all means" originally developed as
human life to be sacred, regardless of age, gender,
technical terms referring to ones
intelligence, etc. For this reason, we never speak, as moral obligation. The determinasome do, of a time "when life has no more value.
tion of whether a treatment was
Rather we believe that human life is always of value, ordinary or extraordinary deas it is a reflection of divine love.
pended on the impact the of the
On the other hand , the answer to the second
treatment. Thus, as you asked, the
question reminds us that life on this earth is not our determination is "case specific." It
eternal destiny. God made us so tlwt we might /mow,
depends on the benefit a treatlove and serve him in this life and be lwppy witlt /tim
ment offers to a patient relative
fol'evcr in the next. Taken together, these
to the burden the
two teachings will help us with most
treatment imposes
... The answer to
of the · end of lifeMquestions we will
on the patient,
the second question
encounter in bioethics.
her family and the
reminds us that life on community.
Moral theologians, such as the Dothis earth is not our
minican Francisco de Vitoria (1486As this concept
eternal destiny. God
1546), have long taught that one is
gained wider apmade us so that we
requtred to employ only those means
plication, confumight know, love and
of preserving ones life for which the
sion arose when
burden is not too great. Pope Pius Xll serve h1m in this life
people began
continued this tradiuon in 1957, when and be happy with him using the term "orhe spoke of the requirement to usc "or- forever in the next.
dinary" to refer to
what was customdmary means" to preserve life and the
correspondingly optional nature of "extraordinary
ary or usual in medical practice,
means.M
rather than its original usage.
Hence the terms ~ordmary" and "extraordinary
Consequently they assumed that
n
specific procedures or technologies could be classed as ordinary
or extraordinary.
In an effort to reduce confusion, ethicists substituted the
word ~proportionate• for "ordinary" when referring to means
or treatments that were morally obligatory. Similarly
they substituted the
term ~d isproportionate~ for "extraordinary" when referring to treatments
that were morally
optional.
Either way, the key
moral consideration
remained not whether the
proposed treatment is customary or commonly employed,
but rather the benefit offered
and the burden imposed. Fol·
lowing the position outlined
by the Sacred Congregation
the Faith in tts Declaration on
Euthanasia ( 1980), the United
States Conference of Bishops
wrote in the Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Health
Cart: Services (2001):
"While every person is
obliged to use ordinary means to
preserve her health, no person
should be obliged to submit to
a health care procedure that the
person has judged, with a free
and informed conscience, not
to provide a reasonable hope of
benefit without imposing excessive risks and burdens on the
patient, or excessive expense to
family or community." 1321
Elsewhere in the same document we find, WA person has a
moral obligation to usc ordinary
or proportionate means of preserving his or her life. Proportionate means are those that in
the judgment of the patient offe
a reasonable hope of benefit an
do not entail an excessive burden or impose excessive expense
on the family or the community." [561
St Clement I Pope ~nd Martyr 1\.o, 23 St Colurrb~n Abbot '«~· 23 Blessed M g"el Agust n Pro Prest a"d M~rty' t.:o . 23 Thacksg.v."g D~7 I USA) N:"
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this
month
in
You will notice thm it is the
patient, who with a free and
informed conscience, determines
whether a specific treatment is
morally required in his particular
circumstance.
H you are wondering who decides when the patient lacks the
capacity to do so, or whether
food and water can ever be considered extraordinary, you will
find the same documents helpful. Both are readily accessible
on the Internet. Or you can
find these and other fabulous
resources on the Web site of
Catholic Health East, sponsor
of St. joseph of the Pines, at
www.che.org/ethics.
history
Notwithstanding the many
developments that have occurred
since I first studied medicine,
the wisdom or the church continues to be enormously helpful
in addressing these and many
other ethical questions. Thanks
for asking! G)
Eileen, Grade 2
It's a place where you
can be happy with God
forever and ever. Where
you can see Jesus, ask all
your questions and have
no more troubles.
Helen, Grade 1
When God calls our name,
He mises our soul and we
get to go to heaven. You
will always see the rest of
your family. We get to be
with our friends.
Thomas, Grade 1
Heaven is whatever you
want. God is happy.
Sean, Grade 2
It is like when Jesus was
down on earth. It's like right
now. It looks like our home.
Mirella, Grade 2
Dylan, Grade 1
Heaven is a good place
to be because God can protect you from evil and
you can fly.
- Monsignor Worsley is Vice President of
Mission & Ethics for St. joseph llcahhcarc
In New llampshirc. lie earned his M.D. ut
Duke University and an STlln ctlllcs at the
t\ccaclcmia t\lfonslana in Rome.
Send your
questions to:
"Since you asked ..."
715 Nazareth St.,
Raleigh, NO 27606
Or: [email protected]
I will see all my cats that
mn away and my goldfish
that died. I think I will love
heaven!
ndrcw Dung·Lac. Pncst and h1s compan1ons. Mnrtrys Nov 24 . Sl Cathennc of Alexandna, Virg1n and Martyr Nov 25 Christ the K1ng Nov 26 St Andrew, Apostl" Nov 30
•
he beginning of the Easter
triduum, or three days,
marks the end of Lent. It
is not really three liturgies,
it is one long liturgy, with some rest
breaks. The triduum commences
, with the Mass of the Lords Supper on
Holy Thursday evening and ends after evening prayer on Easter Sunday.
T
Holy Thursday
During the Mass of the l.Drds Supper, we remember
Jesus' last meal with his disciples in a powerful way,
re-enacting even the washing of feet. This symbolic
gesture of servant-ministry is usually olfered by the
priest to members of the congregation. Following the
Mass, there is a silent eucharistic procession to a chapel of repose, where we
remember the LDrds time in the Garden
of Gethsemane, and we wait With htm
in prnyer and adorntion. The doors of
the tabernacle in the church stand
open, so everyone can see that it
is empty. The sanctuary lamp is
extmguished.
,.._The ushers
are nol just the
men who~
led the money.
They don't
even have to be
menl Ushers
are ministers of
hospital'rty in the
church- ensuring that parishioners have 8 place
to sit, helping
those who are in
distress, readying
~~~:::ore
people at the
doors- and yes,
collecting the
offering and often
assisting in its
presentation by
members of the
congrega~on.
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Good Friday
On Good Friday. there
is no Mass anywhere in
the universal church. We
can participate in a variety of
services by which we remember Jesus' suffenng and death
on the cross. Churches offer
the Stations of the Cross. the
Liturgy of Good Friday, and
sometimes a Tenebrac service. During the Good Friday
liturgy, we listen to a dramatic
reading of the Passion , venerate the cross with a touch
or kiss, and receive Communion from reserved
consecrated hosts. Agam,
we depart in silence.
If the parish has a
"darkness" service, it is held at night. The
seven last words of jesus are spoken, with a candle
extinguished at each one. 1L is a powerful and moving experience of the need for the light.
Easter Vigil
The most beautiful Mass of the entire year occurs
on Holy Saturday night, at the Easter Vigil. The Mass
begins after dark with the blessing of new fire, the
lighting of the paschal candle and a candlelit procession into the church. The
The most beauti·
Exul!ct, a history of salvation,
ful Mass of the
is chanted and we listen to
entire year occurs readmgs from the Old and New
on Holy Saturday Testaments that reflect that hisnight, at the Easter tory. There may be as many as
Vigil. The Mass be- nine readings, followed by the
gins after dark with first smgmg of the Gloria since
the blessing of new the beginnmg of Lent.
fire, the lighting of
The Easter Vigil includes the
the Paschal candle baptism, confirmation and first
and a candlelit
Commumon of catechumens
procession into the who have been preparing for th1s
day for months. We welcome
church.
them into our community and
~ elebratc their presence among us.
Although the Easter Vigil can be quite long, it is truly
wonh spending the time - n is a rich experience of the
resurrection of the Lord. And for the first time since Ash
Wednesday. we sing Alleluia!
By Elizabctlt Solsburg I llfustrations by Bob Patten
..,.. The bishop carries a tall hooked staff
called a aosler. In the Western church, it is shaped
like a shepherd's crook to symbolize the bishop's
role as the shepherd of his flock. Crosiers dating
from as early as the fourth century have been found
in catacombs. By the Council ofToledo in 633, the
crosier is mentioned as a liturgical implement
w ha t 's t he
s eason?
What is
Advent?
.... Advent Is
the beginning
of the church's
year-occurring not In
January, but
during the four
weeks prior to
Christmas. ADvent begins on the
Sunday closest
to Nov. 30, the
Feast of Sl Artdrew. We prepare
for the coming
of Christ in joyful
anticipation. In the
earliest days of the
church, Advent
lasted six weeks,
until St Gregory
1he Grea~ of calendar fame, fixed
the season at four
weeks and composed prayers
and antiphons to
celebrate it. The
liturgical color for
Advent is pu!ple.
•
Tabernacle:
The tabernacle Is the repository In
which the consecrated hosts are r&
served for distribution to the sick or
other needs of the community. It is
prominently displayed in the church, separated from
the main altar by architecture, fighting or design. In
many churches, it is in a separate chapel where it
is still visible in the body of the church. When the
Blessed Sacrament is present, a sanctuary lamp
bums near it.
People often sit
or kneel in adoration in front of
the tabernacle;
the appropriate
gesture when
approaching or
passing in front
of it is genuflection.
T
s the church contemplates, celebrates
and commemorates
our beloved dead in the month
of November, I would like to
highlight the way we, the living,
join in praying for the dead
;:::;;;r.;;;;:;;,;;;;...a~n:-:d~i;n: u=nion with the saints every time
we celebrate the holy Eucharist.
Perhaps the most obvious way we do this is in the great
eucharistic prayer. Consider the fifth-century Roman
canon, also known as the first eucharistic prayer in our
current sacramentary. In the traditional teaching of the
church, we referred to the church on earth as the "church
militant,n the saints in heaven as the "church triumphant,"
and those in purgatory as the "church suffering." In the
Roman canon, we pray for all three. In the early part of
the Roman canon, the priest says, "Remember, Lord, your
people, especially those for whom we now pray, N. and
N." The rubric in the prayer indicates that this prayer is a
commemoration of the living and the priest may pause at
this point in the prayer to remember specific people (and
it miqht be presumed that all gathered with the priest may
silently do the same).
Together we
Later in the prayer, the priest says,
pray for all
"Remember, Lord, those who have died
who have
and have gone before us marked with the
died: "Eternal sign of faith, especially those for whom
rest grant unto we now pray, N. and N ~ Again the rubric
them, 0 Lord, invites silence so that the priest (and asand let perpet- sembly) may commend the dead to the
ual light shme Lord. Finally, the prayer prayed by the
upon them:'
priest mentions by name a wide range
of saints whom he asks to be in union
with us, as we offer God this great prayer of thanksgiving
which brings to us the miracle of our eucharistic Lord in
consecrated bread and wine.
In this great eucharistic prayer we see an example of
the people of God, in an earlier age called the church
militant, praying for the church suffering and in union with
the church triumphant. All constitute the Communion of
saints and are especially important for us to remember in
the month of November.
Together we pray for all who have died: "Eternal rest
grant unto them, 0 Lord, and let perpetual light shine
upon them~
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- Most Rc,·c,-.,nd llllch~d F. Burbidge Is b is hop
NC CDdmltu
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or IU.Iclgh
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ecently in Raleigh we read of the abduction and
murder of a loving mother and grandmother who
was a faithful Christian. The deed was allegedly
done by a sex predator with a prior conviction
for sexual assault.
There was an outpouring of concern and help for the family from friends, church members and co-workers. This type
of response is typical of North Carolinians. People are present and helpful when such a tragedy strikes a family. It also
happens when there is a natural death.
I witnessed this in my youth in the African-American com·
munity. The wreath on a door was the call for neighbors and
friends to gather and take care of the needs of the bereaved
family. The children teamed from the parents and grandparents to reach out to their peers when their parents or
grandparents died.
When my own mother died, the Sisters, Servants of the
Immaculate Heart of Mary, who staffed St. Monica School
which I attended, brought my class over to our house to gat~
er at my mother's coffin and pray for her and the family. The~
also brought over those in the school who were Girt Scouts, f
since my mother ran the St. Monica troop.
It was the custom in those days to wake the women of
the family in the parlor of the family home. Often, as in
my mother's case, the funeral service was also held at the
home. Those who came sat inside the house, on the porch
or in the yard.
There was never any effort to shield the children from
the reality of death. Godparents would come and talk to the
children; playmates and friends would come around just to be
with you. When my mother died, my two closest
friends, James Rogers and Doug FatTar, were
there for me. My mother died just before my
birthday, so James' mother gave me a birthday
party at the Rogers home, three doors down
the street. The care of these friends did not end
with the burial. In ensuing years, these same
people were always there.
limes and culture have changed, but
we who call Christ Lord and belong to the
community of faith must keep a caring and
responsive presence for others. One of the
works of mercy is to bury the desd. Attending a funeral is a work of mercy. During
September, we read from the Epistle of
James. His message was loud and clear
and practical: Faith is shown, and must be
shown, in works.
- lllsgr. Thom~s I' IIBddcn
S
ince I began to work in Hispanic ministry, I
do not how many times people have called
me to ask about "Mexican customs and traditions!' However, there is a particular one that makes
priests, parish staff and non-Mexican-born Hispanics especially curious: the celebration of Dia de los
Muertos. Perhaps because
in our current culture death
is considered as something
"bad" or 11Sad"- even "scary,"
- one may fail to see the real
origins of this celebration.
urante el mes de noviembre recordamos a
todos los santos y a nuestros difuntos, por
los que oramos para acercarlos a Ia Misericordia Divina. Tambien damos gracias por Ia vida
y meditamos en el misterio de Ia muerte que forma
parte de nuestra existencia.
/Que mlsterlo enclernJs muerte••• l
Eres misterio porque eres principia y fin, porque nacemos
contigo y terminamas en tu campania, aunque siempre estes a
nuestro /ado.
Eres misterio porque unes a los que estaban dispersos y separas a los que estaban juntos. Porque despiertas a los indiferentes y
haces que hasta el mas realists cierre sus ojos ante tu presencia.
In Mesoamerican cultures, death
Eres misterio porque acabas con Ia vida humans, pero eres el
was not just an end to everything,
paso a Ia vida divina, porque eres fin y eres comienzo, porque
but an important event in the entire
eres oscuridad y eres luz, porque en tu realidad estala verdad del
{(.fe cycle of each person. Each cuihombre, de Ia vida, del pasado y del futuro.
\..\..,re celebmted in different ways. In ....:...::..=:!:=:::=~~~=.1 Eres misterio porque eres el sueno de los que no viven, el
Mexico, in the Aztec culture, such celebrations dated roughly
consue/o de los que no aceptan, Ia realidad de los que estamos, el
from 1800 B.C. In the Aztec calendar, which consisted of
enemigo de los cobardes, el camino para los creyentes y e/ reme18 months, the ninth and tenth months were dedicated to
dio para los cansados.
celebrate the day of the death of children and adults, respecEres misteria porque eres esperanza para el cristiano, porque
lively. The belief was that there were three places where
eras Iumbra/ para el encuentro definitivo con el Senor y el carnienpeople would go, depending on their life state when they
zo del descanso en Ia luz y Ia paz de Ia etemidad.
died, not because they were "good" or "bad~
Eres misterio porque invades Ia vida de los hombres y de las
One place was called Mictlan, the place for those who
mujeres, de los ricos y de los pobres, de los que sufren y de los
were not destined to be "gods." Probably this is why the
a/egres, de aquellos que son necesarios
Spanish missionaries translated this term as "purgatory."
para los suyos y de aquel/os solitarios y
vagabundos.
This place consisted of nine levels that the dead person
had to journey before arriving at the eternal repose called
Eres misterio porque rompes con Ia
Obsidians de los Muertos, something similar to heaven.
rutina, con Ia angustia y con e/ sueno,
Therefore, the family and friends would bury the dead with
despertando esperanzas, interrogantes
food, liquor, even a dog, to help them on their journey to
y hasta deseos de tenerle para
the ninth level. Another place was called Paradise of Tlaloc.
encontramos con aquellos que tti
1 Tlaloc was the God of the rain. Those who drowned went
nos arrebatas.
' directly to this place. The third place was called CihuatlamPor esto y mucho mas eres
pa or Mocihuaquetzque, also known as heaven and the
misterio, porque eres y no eres,
place of the sun. Warriors who died fighting and women
estas y no te vemos, vives y no
who died in labor went to this place.
existes. Porque te vemos solo
It has been stated that Catholic culture among indigenous
cuando cerranJos los ojos a
peoples was formed from Spanish Catholic culture and Meeste mundo, porque luchamos
~american religiosity, and that this may have given rise to El
cuando ya nos has vencido,
~ia de los Muertos. There are many ways to celebrate this
porque nos tienes en tus manos
tradition, but the foundation of this celebration is the basic
desde el ayer hasta manana.
belief that the souls of our dead return from heaven to be
Porque sun despues de estas
with family and friends spiritually at least once a year.
palabras no descubro tu misterio.
- Vcronlc:t
Alvan~do
Is
Dlt~!clor or Ulspantc
Ministry ror the Diocese or Raleigh
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P~drc
Fernando Torres
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'd toyed with the idea for a year or two. l knew it was good work,
but l wasn't sure about the time commitment," Burke says. "But I
joined in june or july of 2001." He shakes his head and smiles wryly. "l couldn't have timed that much better." The World Trade Center fell in September. Then on Nov. 12 a jet crashed in Queens and Burke
got the call to head for New York. "l had joined too late for the programs
summer training session," he recalls, "sol was going with people I'd never
met to do something I'd never done. When we pulled up to the New York
City Medical Examiners office- it was 5 a.m. - l was about as frightened
as I'd ever been." Burkes job was to prepare tissue samples for DNA determination, and when his team had processed the crash victims they were
assigned to identifying remains from the World Trade Center. 'There was a
great sense of duty among the people working there," Burke recalls.
NC Catlwlics
Over the next
few years, Burke
was called to
other disaster
sites. In 2002,
the remains of
more than 200
discarded bodies
were uncovered
at a crematory in
rural Georgia. Burke was unable
to make that trip, but in 2005 he
went to Florida, which was battered by eight hurricanes in one
season. Then there was Katrina.
Burke was summoned to Mississippi. "The NOMS employs
a task-farce concept," Burke
explains. Teams from various regions are summoned to deal with
different sectors in the disaster
area. Once on site, the teams,
through their commanders,
are under the direction of local
authorities. "We were on alert
Aug. 28," Burke remembers.
storm hit on the 29th. We stayed
at a military base near Hattiesburg, and we arrived in the dark.
The next morning we drove to
Gulfport. l won't forget the first
sight of the damage. It was like
another planet, completely obliterated . You saw two-story buildings where the storm surge had
completely taken the first floor
and left the second floor standing
on naked support beams; empty
ground where
"I won't forget
beach bungalows had been." the first sight
In a parking of the damlot outside a dis- age. It was like
abled hospital, another planet,
the team set up completely
a "family sysobliterated."
terns center," a
place where people could report
missing family members, and
where urban search and rescue
teams would bring remains to
Burke and others to be identified and embalmed. "We hadn't
thought about where we would
sleep," Burke recalls. "Some of us
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Why the
church
Reveres the
human body
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slept in cars, others on wooden
slabs that would be used eventually to support the bodies of
victims.~
1c.:ould
The interactions w1th families
be hearHending. Burke saw
anger, shock "and a sense of complete helplessness. I'll never forget
one family who lost five members.
I don't know if they were ever
found. The last I followed up,
they were still missing." Of the
more than 200 victims who were
recovered in their sector, Burkes
team identified all but two.
W
hatdraws
someone into
a profession
where encounters with grief and violent death
are routine? Burke smiles like
it's a question he's heard often,
but can't quite answer in words.
"I was nine years old when my
grandfather died," he says, and
I remember talking with the
director at the funeral home.
When I was older, I worked
art-time as an apprentice, went
1
o mortuary school and got my
, license in 1979." He has always
loved funeral work: "I think it
was something about the traditions, the ceremony. The Catholic
"Thia
is the body
once washed
in Baptism,
anointed with
the oil of
salvation, and
ied with the
Bread of Wfe.
This is the body
whose hands
clothed the1poor
and embraced
the sorrowing.
Indeed, the
human body ia
80
inextricably
associated
with the human
person that it
is hard to think
of a human
person apart
from hia or her
body. Thus,
the Church's
reverence and
care for the
body grows out
of a reverence
and concern
for the penson
whom the
Church now
commends
to the care of
God."
- OnJer of Christian
Funerals, Appendlll
II 0 997)
funeral service, with the incense
loses a child," he says, "its impossible to forget." So how can God let
and music, is beautiful and truly
comforting. Funeral direction
bad things happen to good people?
also gives you an opportunity to
As a believing Catholic who sees
help people at a moment thats
calamities firsthand, what is Burke's
really, at that moment, the worst
answer to the age-old question?
thing that can happen to them. It
He pauses before answeralmost seems selfish, but there is
ing. "Now," he says, "I wonder
satisfaction in helpwhy they haven't
The Catholic funeral happened to me.
ing people through
service, with the
that time."
When I was young,
incense and music,
Funeral work
this was always
is beautiful and truly stuff that happened
takes a serious
comforting.
toll on family life,
to 'other people.'
though, and Burke, originally from Now I know tragedy can strike
New Jersey, moved with his wife to anyone. I'm constantly warning
Connecticut and worked for years
my own children to watch out
for IBM. Today he is a part-time di· for this or that, look what could
happen.
rector at Apex Funeral Home, and
also works as an Associate Director
"At the same time, I believe
for Finance in the University Hous- God doesn't let us suffer burdens
we can't handle. I know that
ing Department at NC State. At St.
Andrew, he served eight years on
sounds like a cliche, but what
the Pastoral Council, two as chmrI've seen makes me believe it's
man, is a Eucharistic Minister and
true. Meanwhile, it's beyond my
chair of the lectoring program, and understanding. ln my work, I
think, 'Maybe these people dtdn't
is heavtly involved in the Colum~
barium Committee. Even when
die in vain. Maybe somethmg
he is not working \vith a disaster
good can come of it. And maybe
team, Burke's work brings him face I can be a part of that.' My assignment is to comfort when I can, to
to face with tragedy on a regular
help people through this.~ ~
basis. "Especially when a family
el
hispano
Catolico
Galveston-Houston, Texas, cuando un pastor decidio
poner un letrero a\ frente de su iglesia ofreciendo
ayudar a cualquicr mujcr que cstuvicra atravesando
una crisis en su embarazo. AI ali.o, 60 •glesias, catcHcas y de otras denominaciones, panicipaban en este
proyecto. Hoy en dia, el proyecto tiene capitulos en
todos los Estados Unidos.
Para establecer el Proyecto Gabriel en su parroquia
el pastor debe dar primero el permiso. Despues de
diseiiar y presentar un plan, se buscan los voluntarios parroquiales que sc llaman "Angeles Gabriel",
quienes reciben formacion en los principios provida, en comunicaci6n efectiva y en recursos. La
mujer que solicita ayuda
de este proyecto pucdc
practicar cualquier religion
o tam bien no ser practicante. A ella se le asignara
un Angel que sea de su
area. El Angel pucde buscar
apoyo financiero, medico 0
conseguir casas necesarias,
dependiendo de los recursos
que tenga Ia parroquia. Muchas madres embarazadas necesitan ropa de mater- •
nidad y para recicn nacidos, asientos para el carro,
cunas, formula, etc. Los Angeles pucden organizar
una lluvia de regalos para hebe en Ia parroquia. El
proyecto busca adcmas tratar las necesidades espirituales y emociona\es que las madres en embarazo
ticncn.
Durante cl entrenamiento que reciben los Ange6mo es un angel? Kerry S. cree saberlo.
les, se les dice lo siguiente: ULa parte mas importantc
Hace diez anos yo era madre soltera. Tenia un del Proyecto Gabriel noes ser psiquiatra, analista o
nino pequefto y estaba en el septimo mes de
trabajadora social. Lo que ustedes hacen se parece a lo
embarazo. !•E] padre del nino me dijo que se
que harlan por una sobrina o una vecina. Es simpleconmigo, pero no crei que su compromiso fuera
mente estar alii para elias: llevarlas a almorzar, orar con
ella
y por su hebe, llamarla cada scmana, llevarla a las
para toda Ia vida asi que le dije que no. Se fue inmediatacitas
mcdicas u ofreccrsc a cuidar cl be be. En pocas
mente. El estres que se genera alrededor de esta situaci6n
palabras, ser una hermana, una ayuda y una amiga!'
me caus6 complicaciones en el embarazo y termine tenienAI escuchar Ia historia de Keny, sc entiendc
do que guardar cama. Estaba sola aqui, sin familia. Llame
claramente Ia importancm de esc cuidado. Casi una
a Ia parroquia de St. Michael en Cary. No podia conducir decada despues, a esta joven madre todavia se le salen
para ir al doctor, no podia salir a comprar los comestibles, las lagrimas al recordar que sentfa en csos momentos sobre su embarazo: ''Era una situacion en Ia que
asi que pedi ayuda. Fue muy dificil, pero senti que tenia
yo
no tenia cabida en mi familia y cstas mujeres me
que hacerlo por mis hijos."
dejaron sentir su amor: alguicn estaba feliz por mis
El telefono de Keny son6 a\ dia
ran para poder llevar su embarazo niftos y por mi. Elias me hicieron sentir que habia
siguiente. Un angel Ia estaba llaman- a tcrmino y criar los hijos en un
tornado Ia decision correcta de quedarme con mis
do. Sc llamaba Catherine Baron.
ambiente sana. Otro angel era Ter- hijos."
En ese entonces, Catherine era
ry Sed ito. Juntas, crearfan despues
Que alguicn cstaba feliz . .. Esto es lo que mas
en su parroquia un capitulo de Ia
una de las pocas mujcres en St.
impacta al escuchar las expericncias de los Angeles
Michael que voluntariamcnte se
organizacion Proyecto Gabriel.
Gabriel y de los que han ayudado en esos momenhabia ofrecido a ayudar a madres
El Proyecto Gabriel comenz6
tos. La mayorfa de nosotros estamos acostumbrados
solteras, en lo que elias neccsita~
a pcnsar que un nacimiento es una bendici6n, algo
haec 25 mios en Ia Diocesis de
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"Creo que Ia Iglesia nos enseiia que no
debemos usar 'medios extraordinarios'
para prolongar Ia vida de una persona
gravemente enferma. l.Que son 'm~
usual en Ia pnictica medica, en
vez del uso que se le dio originalmente. Como consccuencia, se
asumi6 que los procedimientos
o tecnologfas cspeclficas podr!an
clasificarse como ordmarios o
extraordinarios.
Para reductr Ia confusion, los
moralistas comenzaron a usar
Ia palabra "proporcionado" en
vez de ~ordinaria~ al refemse
a los medios o los tratamientos que cran moralmente
obligatorios. De igual manera
se cambia cl tcrmino "extraordtnario" que se rcferia a los tratamiemos que eran moralmente
dios extraordinarios'? l.Difieren
ellos de acuerdo al caso? y ...
l.Quien decide?"
i
on preguntas extraordinarias! Usted definitivamente pregunta
algo que es titil e
importante. Como
dec!a uno de mis maestros favorites:
nuestra habilidad y volumad de hacer
las preguntas correctas son las que nos
ayudan a encomrar las respuestas utiles.
Mientras pienso en sus pregumas otras
dos me vienen a Ia mente: tQuicn nos hizo?
tPor que nos hizo Dios? Indiferentememe
de si usted reconoce estas dos pregumas,
las respuestas fueron fundamemales para
las ensei'lanzas que el Papa Juan Pablo II
hermosameme enunciara en su endclica
Evangelium Vitae.
Para el creyeme, Ia respucsta a Ia
primcra preguma cs que Dios nos hizo.
Verdaderamente Dios nos hizo a su imagen
y semcjanza. Esta es Ia razon por Ia cual
sostenemos que toda vida humana debe ser sagrada
sin imponar Ia edad, el genera, Ia inteligencia,
etc. Por esta raz6n nunca decimos, como lo hacen
algunos, que hay un momenta en el que ~Ia vida no
tiene ya valor". Nosotros por el contrario creemos
que Ia vida humana siempre tiene valor, porque es
un reflejo del amor divino.
Por otro lado Ia respucsta a Ia scgunda pregunta
nos recucrda que Ia vida sobre csta tierra no es
nuestro destino etemo. Dios nos ltizo para que lo JJO-
... Ia vida sobre esta
tierra no es nuestro
destino eterno.
Oios nos hizo para
que lo podamos
conocer, amar y
servir en esta vida
y ser felices con e/
po~ ~iempre en Ia
proxima.
I
damos conocer. amary scrvir
en csta vida y scrfcliccs con cl
por sicmprc en Ia proxima. S1
jumamos estas dos ensenanzas nos ayudar.in con
Ia mayorla de las preguntas
sobre c1 "fin de Ia vida" que
encontramos en bioetica.
Los te6logos moralistas, como por eJemplo cl
dominico Francisco de
Vitoria (1486-1546), nos
han enseflado desde haec mucho tiempo que para
prescrvar Ia vida uno debe emplear unicameme
aquellos medios cuya carga no sea exccsiva. El
Papa Pfo XII continuo csta tradici6n en 1957 al
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hablar sabre los requisites para
usar ~ med1os ordinanos" para
prescrvar Ia vida y Ia opci6n correspondlente natural de ~medios
extraordinarios".
En su origen, los medias
ordinanos o cxtraordinarios
fueron tcrmmos tecnicos que se
referfan a Ia obligacion moral de
uno mismo. La determinacion
si cl tratamiemo era ordinaria
o extraordinario dependia del
impacto del tratamiento. Por lo
tanto de acucrdo a su pregunta,
Ia dcterminac16n es especilica
para cada caso. Depende del
bencliclo que eltratamiento le
ofrezca al pacicnte y sc relaciona
con Ia carga que e1 tratamiento
imponga al pacicnte, a su familia
y a Ia comunidad.
AI ganar el concepto una aplicacion mas amplia, naci6 Ia confusion cuando Ia geme comenzo
a usar eltermino "ordinaria'' para
rcferirsc a los que era comtin o
opcionales y sc comenzo a usar cl
tcrmino '"desproporc10nado~.
De cualquicr forma, Ia consideraci6n moral imponante
prevalcnte no fue si Ia propucsta
al tratamtcnto es Ia acostumbrada
o comunmcntc utilizada, sino el
bencficio que ofrece y Ia carga
que impone. La Confercncia de
Obispos de los Estados Unidos,
siguiendo Ia posicion que nos
seflala Ia Sagrada Congregacion
para Ia Doctrina de Ia Fe en su
Declaracion sobre Ia Eutanasia(l980) • escribc lo siguicmc
en Ethical and Religious Directives
for Catholic Health Care Services
(2001):
"Mtcntras toda persona csta
obligada a usar mcdios ordinaries
para preservar su salud, ninguna
persona csta obligada a somcter
a un procedimiento medico
que Ia persona haya juzgado de
manera librc y concientc que no
ofrece un beneficia csperanzador
sin imponer ricsgos y cargas excesivas al paciemc o
I imponcr gastos excesivamente pcsados a Ia familia o
a Ia comunidad.~ 1321
En otra pane del mismo documento encontramos lo siguicnte: "La persona tienc Ia obligaci6n
moral de usar medios ordinaries o proporcionados
para preservar su vida. Proporcionados son los que
a juicio del paciente ofrccen Ia esperanza de un
benelicio razonable y no impone una carga o gastos
excesivos a Ia familia o a Ia colectividad."]56]
Usted notara que es el paciente quien con con ciencia libre c informada determina si moralmente
se nccesita de un tratamiento determinado en su
circunstancia panicular.
Si ustcd se pregunta quien decide en cl caso que
cl paciente esta incapacitado para decid!r, o que el
alimento y el agua puedan considerarse extraordinarios, encontrara Ia respuesta en los mismos documentos. Los dos cst:in disponiblcs en cl Internet.
Tambien los puede encomrar junto a otros recursos
fabulosos en Ia pagina Web de Catholic Health
East, patrocinado por St. joseph of the Pines Health
System , en WW\V.che.orglethics.
No obstante los muchos desarrollos que han
( 1tcurrido desde que estudic medicina, Ia sabidurla
~e Ia Iglesia continua siendo enormememe util al
tratar estas y muchas otras preguntas cticas. jGracias por preguntar! J
- Mon..,r\or Worsky cs d VIC~prcsilknlc de MisiOn y t 11c:J tic S1.
joseph llcahhau·c ~n New llampshirc. Obutvo su 1111111> de M~tliclna en
Duke Univcrsily y cl STL en tllca e11 Ia ,\ cademia Alfcmsiana ~~~ Rurrua.
Director of Christian Formation
Vibrant urban parish of 1000+ families
seeks a full-time Director of Christian
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Columbia, SC close to USC and blocks
from the state capnot. The successful
candidate will lead pre-kindergarten
through high school program, sacramental
prep, adult program, coordinate RCIA and
oversee the youth ministry program.
The Ideal candidate will have a maste(s In
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ientras Ia
Iglesia recuerda, celebra
y conmemora
a nuestros queridos difuntos
el primero de noviembre,
me gustaria resaltar Ia forma
como nosotros los que estamos vivos, nos unimos en
oraci6n junto con los santos,
cada vez que celebramos Ia Santa Eucaristia.
Talvez Ia manera mas obvia de hacer esto es durante Ia Plegaria
Eucaristica. Recuerden el Canon romano del Siglo V que tambien
se conoce como Ia Plegaria Eucaristica I en nuestro Misal Romano
actual. La enseiianza tradicional de Ia Iglesia se refiere a Ia Iglesia
en Ia tierra como Ia Iglesia Militante, a los santos en el cielo como
Ia Iglesia Triunfante y a los que estan en el purgatorio como Ia
Iglesia purgante. En el Canon romano oramos por los tres. AI comienzo del Canon romano, el sacerdote dice: ~Acuerdate tambien,
Seiior, de tus hijos N y N." La rubrica en Ia plegaria indica que esta
plegaria es una conmemoraci6n de los vivos y el sacerdote puede
en este punto de Ia plegaria recordar ciertas personas especifica·
mente (se presume que todos los alii reunidos con el sacerdote,
hagan los mismo en silencio}.
Mas adelante en Ia plegaria el sacerdote dice: wAcuerdate Senor,
de tus hijos N y N que nos han precedido con el signo de Ia fe y
duermen ya el sueno de Ia paz." Otra vez Ia rubrics invita al silencio para que el sacerdote y Ia asamblea puedan encomendar los
difuntos al Seiior. Finalmente, el sacerdote nombra en Ia plegaria
a un numero de santos a quienes les pide se unan en compaiiia,
mientras ofrecemos esta plegaria de acci6n de gracias y nos trae
el milagro de nuestro Seiior Eucaristico en el pan y en el vino
consagrados.
En esta gran Plegaria Eucaristica vemos un ejemplo del Pueblo
, de Dios, antes llamada Ia Iglesia Militante, orando por Ia Iglesia
Purgante y en union con Ia Iglesia Triunfante. Todos constituyen Ia
Comuni6n de los Santos y es especialmente importante recorderlos en el mes de noviembre.
Juntos oremos por todos los que han muerto: "A ellos, Senor, y a
cuantos descansan en Cristo, concedeles ellugar del consuelo, de
Ia luz y de Ia paz~
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- ExecltnUslmo Srl'lor Michael
r:
Burbidge, Obispo ~~~ Raleigh
married for
two years.
They were both
married before and
each has children from
the previous marriage.
she says
he says
his kids get my kids
more things don't get
enougl1
than mine
Jill says: My daughters, who arc
11 and 13, live with us, except
when they visit their father every
other weekend. Steves two kids live
with their mother and come here
on alternate weekends - the same
weekends my kids arc here. Steve
spoils his children rotten - you'd
think they were guests. They never
clean their rooms or help out. But
my children have regular chores
and Steve expects them to be
done. Also, even though he pays
child suppon, Steve buys his boys
anything they want when they're
here. My children arc feeling
resentful that they're not treated
equally, and I guess I am too.
Steve says: My two boys, who
arc ll and 10, don't get to spend
time with me as much as I'd like.
Their mother has custody. So,
when I do get to sec them, I don't
want to spend my time nagging
them about cleaning or chores.
And why shouldn't I spend a
little on fun gifts for them? I wam
them to see me as a generous
parent. ji\15 kids are with us
all the time - they should have
more chores, they live here. I'm
sure my kids do chores at their
mother's house. And, we spend
a lot on day-to-day expenses for
jill':s children; she seems to be
forgetting that.
expert says
The counselor
says: Blended
families always require special concern and care
by the marital
couple. When
you think
of all the family
members that are
thrown into the
mix of relationships, it can seem
overwhelming. I
know I staned to
feel overwhelmed
when I heardjills
and Steve's story.
I am sure they feel
that at times it
seems hopeless. So
where to begin?
The basis of all
relationships .~
parenting
r·
is communication. The best
commumcation stans when
we are not m the middle of a
crisis. The couple should begin talking calmly about their
hopes and dreams for their
children. Chances are high that
those goals arc similar: good
educations, good jobs, loving
families. After agreeing on goals,
they should talk about how to
ach1eve them. Discussion topics
should include discipline, house·
hold rules, chores for fam1ly
members, fun activities, allowances, etc. Make determinations
for the children who live in the
household and for those who hve
there on weekends.
Communicating the rules and
consistency are critical for Steve
and jill. Its not so much what
you say, but how you say it. jill
and Steve really need to agree on
fi.~ues and not allow the children
~~ drive a wedge between them.
Regarding the issue of kids
bemg treated fairly, this is always
tricky. Again the best way to
handle this is to be very open and
honest as parents. What seems fair
to all? What are the fears of the
non-custodial parent? Realistically,
does spending more money on
kids ensure their love? We know
that is not the case. Kids need to
feel valued and loved. Money has
little to do with those feelings.
Spending time with kids is most
valued by them. That works for all
kids of all sizes.
Blended families arc very common in our communities.. They
take very special parents who
arc even w1!ling to try to make
these families work. laying the
groundwork before the mamage
begins can help the transition go
more smoothly. Counseling IS
often necessary as parents try to
!l'ake the difficult decisions for
their families. Please know that
the Catholic Charities agencies
stand ready to suppon families
through this process.
- Deb McCormack
When
offering con·
solation, remember that
the parents
are mourning
this baby, a
unique Individual loved
by God from
conception.
JOu rn ey
he twilight glow of light in the hospital room was
dim, but I could see the ink drawing on the bed
sheet. Throughout the night, the heart-shaped
form captured my attention, despite my efforts
to ignore its presence. A physician, frustrated by the lack
of paper at his ready disposal, had drawn the shape of my
uterus on the sheet while explaining why we had lost our
first baby. Instead of the typical shape, there was a small
division of tissue. As our baby grew, the placenta detached
at this division. The prognosis for future pregnancies was
not good. The heart beside me represented heartbreak.
T
Empty time - responses in solitude
It is normal to be at a loss when deciding how to fill the
time that would have been spent caring for your baby. Dr.
Andreas Teuber of Brandeis University writes that Mary Shelley
may have written Frankenstein while grieving the death of her
11-day-old daughter. A dream recorded in Shelley's journal
foreshadowed plot lines in the tale of horror she penned:
"Dream that my little baby came to life again - that it had only
been cold and that we rubbed it before the fire and it lived~
Researdt conducted by James Pennebaker shows that writing about one's emotions can be effective in coping, showing
a beneficial impact in immune system functioning.
Empty time - sharing with others
Thirty years ago, Sister Jane Marie Lamb, OSF,
founded Share (www.nationalshareolfoce.coml to meet the
needs of those experiencing miscarriage or infant
death. Parents help one another heal; the group
engages in supportive outreach. Members promoted
hospital policies to place symbols outside rooms
alerting staff to the loss. Share advocated a halt to
the flow of advertisements for infant products mailed
to the homes of bereaved parents. Sister Jane Marie's
book, Bittersweet ... Hellogoodbye, helps parents
explore ways to say goodbye through rituals.
Bring your anguish to the Lord
All our human emotions are appropriate to share
in prayer, including anger. "In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the Lord~ She was so
distraught that Eli first attributed her behavior to drunkenness instead of anguish. Eventually, the desire of Hannah's heart was fulfilled and she conceived. ·she named
him Samuel (heard of God), saying, 'Because I asked the
Lord for him: (1 Samuel 1·10, 20)
When offering consolation, remember that the parents
are mourning this baby, a unique individual loved by God
from conception. Usten with compassion and offer support as parents mourn the child that cannot nestle in their
arms and grieve the anticipated milestones that will never
be experienced. - Dr, Ca1hlecn McGreal
er silent tears fell down her cheeks. She
had lost her child in early pregnancy
a few months ago, and she was trying
to be strong. She had come into the
church that Sunday morning to celebrate the death
and resurrection of jesus Christ, but in the pew in
front of her, she saw a mother holding a newborn
child. She could not hold back the tears.
H
She looked up aL the cross.
jesus was there in his agony and it
seemed to her that he was looking
at her. She too was sharing in his
suffering. If she could somehow let
go and surrender this to the Father,
she knew Gods loving hand would
wipe the tears from her eyes.
She understood that Jesus knows
the pain of grief. When he came
to the tomb of his friend, lazarus,
Scripture records simply that "Jesus
wept.~ \John 11 J~) He wept in grief,
even though he knew that in a few
moments he would bring lazarus
back to physical hfc and restore
him to his family. By his tears, jesus
showed us that grief is not a sign of
a lack of faith or trust in God. It is a
normal part of what it means to be
human. It is a sign that we love.
But how do we deal with it? If
you are going through grief, be
patient with yourself. Acknowledge
it. Accept it Tum over the pain and
hun to God the Father. jesus turned
to his heavenly Father and "offered
prayers and supplications with loud
cries and tears to the one who was
able to save him from death, and he
was heard because of his reverence."
(1-kb 5 7-9)
jesus teaches us how to go
through grief. We accept it and
I
surrender ourselves in trust to the
loving care of God our Father. God
is doing a work in us through the
grief. Indeed, like Christ, we are
being ~made perfectn by what we
are suffering.
There will be
resurrecuon
- through death
to life! Through
sorrow and pain
to :~cceptance
and pe:~cc. From
tears of sorrow
to tears ofjoy.
God hears
the cry of our
heans and sees
the tears that
we shed. "My
wanderings you
have noted; are not my tears stored
Helping people through grief.
in your vial, recorded in your book?"
Today, Jesus continues to minister to us through
(l's56H) lt was a custom in Jesus' day
his body, the church. I have seen so many people
to store the tears one shed in a jar or grieve deeply and witnessed the church or family or
vial, called a "tear jar." It was a way
. network of friends be the "hand of God" that wipes
of "letting go" by expressing the pain the tears from sorrow-filled eyes. A person who is
and loss of a loved one and turning
bereft needs support and love. Love heals us all.
to God in the hope God would see.
Imagine God collecting your tears!
Don't try to rush things.
We need to remember that each person experiences loss uniquely. Some people are affected more
profoundly than others. There is no "time table" for
finishing grief. Be patient and help the bereaved
..,. During
Menaomrethe month of
Remember, 0
November, as we most gracious
remember those
who have died
Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who
and those who
ned to your protection, implored your help or sought
are grieving, pray your intercession was left unaided. Inspired \vith this
these prayers
1 confidence, I Oy to you, 0 virgin of virgins, my mother.
each day:
To you l come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful.
0 Mother of the Word incarnate, despise not my peti1 tions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
NC Carh~tlics
22 Nm·cmb<r 2006
- - - -'-1.
Salve Regina- Hail holy Queen, Mother of
mercy, our life, our sweetness, and our hope. To thee
do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee do
we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this
valley of tears. Tum then, most gracious Advocate,
thine eyes of mercy toward us. And after this our exile show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, jesus.
0 clement, 0 loving, 0 sweet Virgin Mary.
P1 ay for us, 0 Holy Motllcr of God. That we may be
made worthy of the promises of Cluist. Amen.
Be a good listener.
Don't be afraid of tears.
Sometimes we want to jump in
and try to make things all better
by offering advice, or pointing
out the positive. Remember
that working through grief takes
time. When we tell someone to
"let go" and "get over it" and
"move on," we can hinder the
process. Be present. Being a
good listener enables someone
else to move on. He or she
knows that someone cares. Let
the tears flow. Tears can help
the person express and release
the sorrow within them.
Encourage attendance
at a bereavement
support group.
to speak to me about it. We went
together to her grave and he
asked me to kneel down with him
to say a prayer. We did. There
were many tears. He wanted to
know if it was OK that he still
spoke to her from time to time inside his heart, or even out loud.
He was worried that he was
doing something wrong. He
thought getting over his grief
meant he had to forget her.
I assured him he was doing
nothing wrong, and suggested
that he give himself some time
each day to pray to the Lord for
her and to speak with her in his
own heart. She was alivel As
Jesus said, "God is a God of the
living, not of the dead I" She is
still joined to him and the whole
church in Christ. That is what we
mean when we pray "I believe in
he communion of the saints." He
aid so and was grateful for this
help in working through his grief.
Healing does not mean forgetting,
but remembering with hope and
trust in our hearts.
The loss of loved ones can
be so devastating that a person
may not know where to turn or
what to do. Many churches have
bereavement support groups
to help. Two people shared
with me how God helped them
find healing and much more
through such a group. They had
both lost their spouses and it
seemed as if their lives too had
come to an end. It was hard for
them to function. "Letting go"
seemed impossible. The one
spouse recognized this by
her difficulty in moving
her deceased husband's
shoes. She just could
not do it for a long time.
But each one knew God
wanted them to live and
said, "I have
come that you
might have life in
abundance." The local church bereavement support group
gave them a place
where they could
come together and
openly talk about what
was going on inside.
It was comforting to
know that others
understood and that they were
not going crazy. They were
able to work through their grief
with the prayer and the help
of their supportive community.
While sorrow and grief are not
completely dispelled, the pain
becomes more bearable when
a person feels loved and supported. For these two people,
an even more wonderful thing
happened. In time, they discovered they loved each other and
were married. They were able
to let go of their emotional pain
and say "yes" to the new life
that was right before them.
Pray for those in grief.
We all experience little
losses and disappointments
frequently, and at times we must
mourn the death of loved ones.
In the beautiful prayer and hymn
called Salve Regina, we pray
"Hail Holy Queen ... to thee do
we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley
of tears." Mary is often hailed
as Our Lady of Sorrows. She
knows how sorrow can literally
pierce the human heart. She
endured the brutal crucifixion of
her own beloved son before her
eyes. Mary can bring comfort
and help as only a mother can.
Pray the Salve Regina and the
Memorare for anyone going
through grief.
Like all things on this earth,
grief will have its own end.
Mother Teresa had a beautiful saying as she helped many
people die with dignity and love.
"Never have so much sorrow
that you forget the joy of the
resurrection I" As we help others
through grief, may God help us
always to carry the hope of the
resurrection in our hearts.
"The Lord is close to the brollcnltcartcd; and tltosc wlto arc a115hccl
in spirit l1e saves." (Ps 34:19)
- Fr. Bill Ashbaugh
n F1iclay, Nov. 3, Bishop Burbidge will inaugurate a series of
First F1iday Vocations Holy Hours in the Diocese of Raleigh.
The evening will begin with music and the Sacrament of Reconciliation, followed by a traditional Holy Hour with a Gospel
reading and a homily by the bishop, and a pe1iod of silent prayer before the
Blessed Sacrament. Music and fellowship will follow the Holy Hour; with
a showing of "Fishers of Men," a video produced by the U.S. Conference of
Catholic Bishops on discerning p1iestly vocations. NCC spohe with Bishop
Burbidge, Diocesan Director of Vocations Msg1: Michael Clay, and Brad Wathins, an art teacher at Cardinal Gibbons High School and the coordinator of
the Vocations Holy Hour series. (Picttwcs by Dcnmarlz Photography)
NCC: What was the Impetus behind establish·
Ing this series of events?
BB: In the crucial area of increasing vocations to the
priesthood and religious life, we know that we cannot
rely solely on our own elfons. We must place our needs
in front of the Blessed Sacrament and ask Our Lord
Jesus to inspire our young men and women to consider
and pursue a call to priesthood and religious life.
BW: A difference in this program is that its not just for
those seeking to discern vocations. We encourage all to
attend and pray; first of all, to discern their own vocations, but then to provide a ministry of prayer for others
seeking to discern their own callings. And we thought
that Friday night was a time when older high school
youth and young adults would be free and open to an
alternative to the usual Friday night activities.
MC: We did Holy Hours for vocations years ago, about
eight times a year, and they were geared primarily for
potential candidates for the priesthood and religious
life. This approach will have a wider focus, emphasizing
the need for all persons to pray for vocations.
NCC: What do you see as the most Important
factors In increasing religious vocations?
MC: First, prayer, by the diocese at large, and deliber-
ate elfons at prayer
in the parishes.
Second, we need to
motivate priests to
promote vocations,
to enthusiastically
endorse the life
they've embraced.
We're hoping for
a "new dawn" of
encouragement
from our clergy.
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NCC: In your experience,
what ''tips" a young person
toward pursuing a religious
vocation?
MC: Someone took the risk of engaging them in a discussion about
vocation and encouraging them.
Many were also inspired by a priest
or religious who gave heroic witness
to the value of this life. People with
outstanding convictions. Another
important factor is that people have
been praying for them, even though
they haven't known it, behind the
scenes. I know of a grandmother
who prayed lO years for her grandson to be a priest. Recently 1got a
letter from his mother saying he was
beginning the process.
88: The church teaches that all vocations are gifts from God. But not
all are the same. We need to teach
8W: The U.S. Conference of Cathoand proclaim what is unique about
lie Bishops did a study that indicated
the priesthood, about religious life.
that 70 to 80 percent of priests,
, as I tell young people, even if
before they pursued the life, had
isn't calling you to
been asked by a priest to
this life, that doesn't mean The church
consider it. Yet only 30
your responsibility is
teaches that all
percem had themselves
ended. He may be calling vocations are
invtted anyone.
one of your peers, and
gifts from God.
your support and encour- But not all are
88: Something I saw so
agement are crucial.
the same. We
often in the seminary was
need to teach
successful men who had
NCC: Has the diocese and proclaim
everything they were told
set any vocations
what is unique
they should get: material
goals in terms of
about the priest· comfon, status and so
numbers?
hood, about
on. But what they had
religious life.
wasn't enough. Some88: No, but we want
thing was missing. They
an upward trend. And we have
weren't fulfilled, and they came to
every reason to be hopeful.
see Gods plan for them.
MC: In comparison to dioceses like
ours, we've done well. For lO years
we've averaged two priests per year
while the average is one per year.
So we have some good momentum. My hope is that in five to six
years we'll have three to four per
~ 1'\ear. The vocations are here. So
1
tlUJ!any Latino men, for example,
would begin training today. But
they're prevented by their legal
status or they are sole providers
for their extended families.
MC: Theres a difference between
"Are you happyr and "Are you fulfilled?" And its imponantto think
about that. There are lots of ways
to be happy, but the fulfillmcm you
experience in the priesthood and
religious life is just incredible.
88: And you see that fulfillment
in so many priests and religious.
These people are heroes in our
midst. They radiate a spiritual joy
that leaves you in awe.
I
n ews
Catholic Charities case manager
honored
..,. Soleir Gordon
Schaefer, a bilingual
case manager at Catholic Charities' Piedmont
office, was one of several people honored Oct.
26 by Univision 40 as
part of the broadcasting
company's commitment
to the local Hispanic
community and in celebration of Hispanic Heritage Month. "Each year we recognize outstanding Hispanic leaders in our local community,n a
spokesperson for Univision explained. "Soleir has
been selected as an 'Orgullo de Nuestra Comunidad' (Pride of our Community).n
Catholic high school opens in
New Bern
... On Aug. 14, the New Bern Chamber of
Commerce conducted the official ribbon cutting
at Christ the King Catholic High School. More
than 100 were in attendance. Officiating was
Chamber Chairman Chuck Dale. Among those
in attendance were Mayor and Mrs. Tom Bayliss;
St. Paul's Pastor Emeritus Msgr. James Jones
and Pastor Fr. Ernest Ruede. School began on
Monday Aug. 28. For more information about
Christ the King, call 252.514.0085 or visit
www.ckchs.org
rom the days of slavery,
through the long era of
segre.gation and int~ modem tlmes, unassummg
but strong women have preserved
the tiny flame of Catholicism in the
African-American Catholic communities of North Carolina. Until the later years of the
20th century, the majority of African-American Catholics worshipped in segregated churches. Paradoxically,
it was when these separate parishes and schools were
closed that a crisis occurred. Having their own communities disbanded, and all too aware of the coolness
if not open hostility of the whites, African-Americans
drifted away from the church. However, in every town, When Catholic school is at home
·~
a few courageous women, the depth of their faith
t's 2 p.m. on a fall Thursday, still
overcoming their fears, led the valiant few who made
a little while before yellow school
the difficult transition to worshipping in the "white
buses will lumber homeward on
church." Three such women can represent the many
city streets. But for the kids occupywho provided such leadership.
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In Wilmington, when St.
Thomas Church was closed
in 1968, Margaret Hamilton
established herself as a valued
member of the Catholic community at St. Mary Church.
Similarly, in Raleigh, when the
black church of St. Monica
closed in 1973, Bertha Coleman
transferred to St. joseph Church
and joined the choir. Finally,
in Wilson, a city in the tobacco
growing region, when St. Alphonsus Church was dosed in
1987, Bessie Richardson led the
small band of African-Americans
who transferred to St. Therese
Church at the other end of town.
Bessie Richardson (18982002) is especially noteworthy.
"Miss Bessie" was the matriarch
of the Wilson black community
and a woman known to everyone. Her Catholic roots went
back to the early years of the
20th century when fewer than
one percent of white North Carolinians were Catholic and an
even smaller amount of blacks
were Catholic. Recalling priests
riding horses looking for Catholics, she said, "I don't guess they
found 10 in the whole county."
Richardson especially remembered St. Alphonsus, the black
church to which she belonged
from its founding in 1942. Until
the day it closed, she walked to
church every Sunday. Years later
she recalled, "It didn't feel like
a long walk; I was praying all
the way."
- William F. rowers
ing the rows of lanes at the bowling
alley, the day's lessons of spelling and
Latin and geometry have given way to
creating screen names for their bowling identities and helping the younger
children fasten their ever-fashionable
bowling shoes.
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Herein lie two of the benefits to home-schooling, an option becoming more feasible and popular in Catholic circles every year: The potential for
shorter school days (your day is done when your
work is done), and a fostering of natural interaction among all age groups, since grade distinctions are much less evident in group settings.
The North Carolina Department of Non-Public
Education recorded nearly 65,000 students as
home schooled last year. Of these, 43,461 attended home-schools classified as "religious~ In
the Raleigh/Cary area, 88 families - with 234
students - are members of TORCH (Traditions
of Roman Catholic Homes), a national support
A wheelbarrow race at the
September kickoff picnic for TORCH
families.
network that promotes homeschooling among Catholic families. They converge frequently
at parks and churches for social,
academic and spiritual activities.
But 20 years ago, the face of
home schooling looked nothing
like the large groups of today.
According to state statistics, in
1986 just 809 students were
home-schooled. Catholic homeschooling numbers were equally
low. In 1991 , just three families
in the capital area stepped up
as home-schooling pioneers.
Three years later, at a meeting at
St. Raphael Church in Raleigh,
26 families formed what would
later become the local chapter
of TORCH. Two years ago the
group grew so large that out of
f(&ecessity it expanded into sepa\(.te Raleigh and Cary TORCH
chapters, among whose members are families from places like
Greenville and Benson.
One of the earliest Catholic
home-schooling mothers was
Lynn Kovacs. She began in
1986 in New York when her
oldest was entering eighth
grade. Despite the large number of Catholics in their area,
their family was one of only two
that had made the decision to
home-school.
There were no Catholic curricula at the time, either. While
Catholic families today have their
choice of Catholic materials from
several outlets, the Kovacs started with religious-based curricula
that were Protestant. Then her
family moved to Raleigh, where
Protestant home-schooling
families outnumbered Catholic
~f."Lsmilies eight to one, a ratio that
:~ill stands.
This spring, Kovacs "retired"
from home-schooling as her
youngest daughter headed to
St. Thomas More Academy in
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Raleigh.
"With the numbers come
greater support," said Kovacs,
reflecting on the difference 20
years has made in home-schooling. "People have begun to see
the value in it, and to see how
families are very much involved
in their parishes, in volunteering.
It's much more accepted:'
TORCH is part of that acceptance. "It's a support group,"
said Debbie Tomasko, co•leader
of the Cary chapter and a fiveyear veteran of home-schooling.
Among the TORCH activities
are those both Catholic and
secular: First Friday Mass and
breakfast, May crowning and All
Saints Day parties, but also an
annual spelling bee, a science
fair and trips to the art museum.
The middle grades have their
own book club, the older students meet for a basic apologetics course, and two co•ops
instruct students in specialized
subjects like Latin and biology.
And then there are the purely
social geHogethers, like the
weekly afternoon at the park and
a night out for adults ("Where
we talk about school . . . or not
school," said Tomasko).
Home-schooling, say parents,
allows them to tailor a curriculum to each student's strengths
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and weaknesses
while heeding the church's call to be the primary
educators of their children. Some choose homeschooling because, exhausted by eight-hour
school days followed by homework plus whatever
activities pepper the calendar that night, they want
to refocus on the importance of the family.
For Sabrena Goldman and her five children,
the extra time together has meant more chances
to attend daily Mass, as well as the opportunity to
travel on pilgrimages and to the ordination of a
family friend.
It has also meant the freedom of creativity: On
a recent Friday, the children used their free time
to create a play about third-century martyrs.
Abby Steele finds that creativity is one of the
blessings of home-schooling her two sons. "If
you're learning something and you hit a tangent, it
opens a door that we didn't plan," she said. These
doors- both planned and unplanned- have
led to Roman parties, trips to the Shakespeare
Festival in High Point and re-enacting battles at
Gettysburg in full regalia.
TORCH's numbers are growing every year,
with some families joining before their children
reach school age. To them and others considering home-schooling, besides attending the yearly
information night, Sue Tracey gives this advice:
"Be not afraid, and jump right in."
When Lynn Kovacs jumped in 20 years ago,
she worried a little about her oldest son, who was
less than thrilled about being home-schooled.
Now, that son and his wife are members of
TORCH and home-school their three children.
"They're second-generation home-school," said
Kovacs. "You didn't see that 20 years ago."
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things
to
do
Encounter WHh Christ Young Adult Retreat, Nov. 3~
5 at Short Journey Center in Smithfield. Contact Salina
Kohut at 919.35 7.55 72 or [email protected]
Youth Ministers Support Gath·
erlng (YMSG), Nov. 9, 10 a.m.
Sl Stanislaus Polish Festival, Castle Hayne
- 2 p.m. at Holy Infant, Durham.
This program provides a number
of opportunities for adults who
work with youth to gather for support, networking and development.
Each gathering will include: prayer,
community building and networking, and professional development.
Typically, costs for these events
will be travel and food. Contact
Mike Hagarty, 919.821.9770 or
[email protected] raldioc.org.
Saturday Nov. 4, 11 a.m. - 5 p.m. Polish food, live mu~
sic featuring the Polka Plus Band, children's entertainment, raffles, live and silent auctions, craft sale, beer
tent, ample free parking.
St. Bernadette Women's Guild
Annual Holiday Bazaar and Tea
Room, Nov. 10, 10 a.m. • 6 p.m.
Ordination to the Transitional Dlaconate, Saturday,
Nov. 4, 10 a.m., St. Michael Church in Cary.
Curslllo Ultreya in Fayetteville, Nov. 4, 7 p.m. in the
conference suite of St. Patrick School on Marlborough
Drive, next to St. Patrick Church. Come and relive
yourfourth day, bring a friend, be a friend for Christl
DeColoresl
St. Catherine of Siena in Wake Forest is proud to
present their 1 6th Annual Harvest Day Festival. Enjoy
a day of fun for the whole family! Midway games, fun
rides, great food, rock wall, entertainment, raffle, silent
auction, Great Chili Cook-off, 30 + crafters and much
morel The festival is Saturday, Nov. 4 from 10 a.m.
- 11 p.m. For more information and directions, please
e·mail Mary Beth at [email protected] or go
online at www.stcathsiena.org.
and Nov. 11 , 10 a.m .. - 4 p.m.
Hundreds of handcrafted items
perfect for holiday giving will be
available, including personal·
ized ornaments. Enjoy delicious
homemade soups, sandwiches,
and desserts in our Tea Room. The
church is located at 1005 Wilbon
Rd. in Fuquay Varina.
Search for Christian Maturity,
The Franciscan School is currently accepting applications for grades K-8 for the 2007-2008 school
year. For information regarding admissions and a tour
of the school, please contact Debbie Braga, director
of mission, 847.8205- ext 256 or www.franciscanschool.org.
FIRST FRIDAY
VOCATIONS
HOLY
HOUR
November 3rd, 2006
Sacred Heart Cathedral
Join Bishop Burbidge
in praying for vocations
to the priesthood in the
Diocese of Raleigh.
Music & Confessions- 7:30pm
Holy Hour- 8:00pm
Music and reception to follow.
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Nov. 10-1 2 at Short Journey Cen·
ter, Smithfield, is a weekend retreat
for 1 1th and 1 2th grade youth.
Activities encourage self-discovery
and reflection on relationships with
others and with God. This is a peerled retreat as the Search "team"
is made up of other teens. These
past Searchers model leadership,
faith sharing, and ministry with their
peers. Adults in youth ministry also
attend and participate in Search.
Searches usually fill up quickly, so
sign up for the earliest date possible
to ensure yourself a space. Cost:
$90 youth/adults. Other dates: December 8-10, 2006; March 9-1 1,
2007; April 13·15, 2007. Contact
Mike Hagarty, 919.821.9770 or
[email protected]
Sabado Noviembre 11, 2006:
Sexto Congreso Carismatlco
de Sanacl6n, en el auditorio del
Jordan Matthews High School,
910 East Cardinal St., Siler City,
NC 8:00AM· 6:00PM. Gulas
Espirituales: Padre Patrick Keane,
Vicario de los Hispanos de Ia
Di6cesis de Raleigh y Padre Edgar
Sepulveda, Posada Guadalu·
pana. Admisi6n: $10.00 incluye
comida. Para mas informacion
llama a: Joel Enrique Gonzalez al
919.548.1279
Lay Eccleslal Ministers' Annl·
versary Mass, Nov. 11, 11 a.m. at
Sacred Heart Cathedral. A Mass to
acknowledge and celebrate those
lay employees who have ministered
in this diocese for 5, 10, 15 or 20
years and more, and for all lay
ecclesial ministers to renew their
dedication to their profession.
l ocal
news
Journey to Uganda
....,. Apex resident Ed Collupy
first visited Uganda four years
ago with several Catholics from
the diocese. The group was
accompanied by Msgr. Michael
Shugrue. On his return from his
most recent trip, Collupy wrote
about Uganda for the Apex
1 Herald. Following are excerpts
from his article:
"To say life is difficult in
Uganda would be an understatement. Knowing what to expect
from television and magazines
is only a glimpse. Having your
feet on the ground and standing
in a fishing village at the foot of
Lake Victoria where missionaries landed more than 100 years
ago, I began to realize that there
is more to the story than I had
experienced four years ago.
Hand-made wooden boats, with
buckets to bale water, bringing in
fresh tilapia; another transportin
lumber and men; a return trip in
the leaking vessel that has now
become a water taxi - these
scenes truly put you in Uganda.
"Uganda's infrastructure
African Ancestry Men's Retreat,
Nov. 17-19 at Avila Retreat Center,
Durham. This retreat for males 19
years and older will address male
spirituality and relationships, encouraging males to take leadership roles
in educating, and motivating them
in their lives and ministry. Retreat
leader: Deacon Art Miller, Archdiocese of Hartford, Conn. Cost: $1 00
includes housing and meals. Contact
Wilena McPhatter, 252.243.7592 or
[email protected]
Priesthood Discernment Group,
November 18, 9 a.m. -1 p.m. at the
Doggett Center, Raleigh. The Priesthood Discernment Group provides a
comfortable and safe place to discuss
your thoughts and feelings about a
possible call to the priesthood. The
group discusses issues central to the
call within the context of prayer and
mutual support. If you think this group
may be for you, please call Fr. Alex
at 919.833.9668 or e-mail him at
[email protected]
Encountering God In the Word
·for Small Groups, Nov. 18, 1-4
p.m. at Doggett Center at Aquinas
House (NCSU). Fr. Jude Siciliano,
O.P. will offer participants a method
for facilitating a vital encounter with
the Word of God. This is the second
session of a five-session course. The
sessions are in English and Spanish.
To register, e-mail [email protected]
org with contact info, or by regular
- roads, electricity and water
- become experiences all unto
themselves. Roads are plagued with
ruts you avoid by moving into a lane
of oncoming traffic. Brownouts are
commonplace.
"Water Is Ufe, a Ugandan-based
business I've come to know, says it
all as I stand amongst the work crew
and villagers about to pump clean
water from a newly constructed well
provided by a Cary-based nonprofit
organization called Share the Blessings (www.share-the-blessings.
org). Jerry cans, 10-liter plastic containers, are standard household
items. Children and women are the common water gatherers, often
walking a mile or more three times a day to collect dirty water from a
mud hole. The water will need to be boiled throughout the rest of the
day for cooking, drinking and personal hygiene. The joy the people
of these villages share with you as you hand pump clean water into
their jerry can is rewarding, no matter how limited progress there has
been in total.
"Education is important to Ugandans - it is their hope for the
future of their country. Smiling kids in uniforms walking to and from
a school that could be a mile away is not uncommon. So are boarding schools often run by religious organizations and student tuition
supported by people thousands of miles away. In Nakasongala, I
revisited a primary and secondary school where you could see the
~mall steps of progress: science and computer labs and a new roof
n the girl's dormitory; the strong and lively signing; music on Ugandan made drums and a wooden xylophone and traditional Ugandan
dances performed with enthusiasm beyond what I've come to expect
at U.S. school events.
"Uganda is a religious country, with Catholics, Protestants and
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Evangelization and Catechesls
Leadership Retreat, Jan. 8- 10 at
Trinity Center in Salter Path. Jeanne
Hunt, author of Holy Bells and
Wonderful Smells, will facilitate. For
information, contact Unda Bedo at
[email protected]
Challenge is a Friday-Saturday over·
night retreat for grades 6-8. The retreat
focuses on community building, self-as·
teem, Scripture, and relationships with
friends, family, and Jesus. We will be
offering this retreat at multiple s~es Feb.
5-6, 2007. Cost: $30 youth/adults.
Contact Mike Hagarty, 919.821.9770
or [email protected]
Muslims each representing
about a third of the population.
In the Catholic faith, Uganda is
blessed with young men entering
the priesthood. This year in the
Kampala Archdiocese, 1 1 were
ordained at a five- hour liturgy
celebrated by Cardinal Emmanuel
Wamala. The cardinal took time to
acknowledge the exchange he has
been part of with the U.S. church.
Two of the new priests were
trained in Los Angeles; two others
were supported in their studies
by North Carolinians. In Uganda,
being ordained into the priesthood
is a cause for great celebration, a
bigger event than a wedding or a
milestone birthday.
"Uganda holds a special place
in my life and heart. It is home
to people I have come to know
and love. I feel their struggle,
know their hope and believe that
together we can make a difference. My host, Fr. Emmanuel
Katongole, co-director of the
Center for Reconciliation at
Duke Divinity School, sums it up
best when he refers to a Rwandan proverb, 'Unless you hear
the mouth eating, you cannot
hear the mouth crying:"
gun, and the
building was
dedicated by
Bishop Gossman on Dec.
13, 1998.
Today, St.
Stanislaus
T
his month, thousands
of visitors from
Nonh Carolina
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and neighboring
states will head for the little town of Castle
Hayne, near Wilmington, to attend the Polish
Festival at St. Stanislaus Catholic Church.
Although the festival is in only its ninth year,
St. Stans Polish heritage runs deep.
The Catholic community there
began with three Polish immigrant
families who arrived in 1907
to stan vegetable farms. Those
founding families, and many of
their descendants, rest today in
a small cemetery on the parish grounds. At first, Mass was
celebrated in their homes by a
priest who traveled from St. Mary
in Wilmington. By 1916, though,
with help from a development
company and the Catholic Extension Society, the now 18 families
in the community had acquired
land and a church.
St. Stanislaus remained a mission of St. Mary until 1933, when
it became a parish, under the
care (by 1935) of the Conventual
Franciscan Friars of lmmacuNC c~rrudlcs
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"We've
outgrown
the r:>arish
hall [built in
1982] and
our office
building, so
replacing
those will
be one of
our challenges. But
our people
will make
it happen.
They love
the church:'
~
late Conception
Province. Over the
next three decades, the
Franciscans and their Sisters from Syracuse, NY, cared for
Sl. Stanislaus, bringing a rectory,
parish hall, convent and school,
and, in 1951, an Army chapel
from Camp Davis in Holly Ridge,
wh1ch Bishop Vincent Waters
dedicated as the new church.
The school closed in 1962, but
Franciscan friars would continue
as pastors for many years. Meanwhile Castle Hayne, and St. Stans ,
continued to grow as retirees and
new businesses discovered the
Wilmington area. By the mid'90s,the old church building was
clearly inadequate. The building
couldn't even be sold, so it was
donated to the local fire department for a trainmg exercise. In
1997, then-pastor Father Douglas
Reed held two services: one as
articles were removed from the
church and another before the
church was burned. Construction
of a new church had already be-
community of
300 families. ~They arc a blessing to me," says Father Ryszard
Kolodziej, a native of Poland and
pastor since 1999, ~mcredibly
generous with their time, talent
and treasure.'' He especially emphasizes the contributions of the Ladies
Guild and of St.
Stan's older members. More than
200 parishioners.
he! p with the fest iva~
for example. They have
organized Bible study groups,
two choirs, many potlucks,
picnics and service projects,
often in cooperation with other
Christian churches. "We have lots
of opportunities to meet with each
other,· the pastor explains. One
parishioner, a transplant from the
Northeast, cites the closeness of
the St. Stan:S community as one of
its best characteristics.
Alt~ough the
"They are a
Wilmmgton ~rea
blessing to
has a reputauon as a me ... incredmagnet for retire_es, ibly generous
a look at the pansh with their
d1rectory shows that time talent
St. Stan:S is also 3
and treasure:'
young community,
with many children involved in parish activities and events. "We've
outgrown the parish hall [built in
1982] and our office building,"
Father Ryszard says, "so replacin
those will be one of our challenges. But our people will make it
happen. They love the church." ~
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